Just finished “When Sinners Say “I Do”” by Dave Harvey and I’m so glad I did. I highly recommend it to All, not just married couples. There is much to be done in my heart and that is why I am so thankful for the spirit that humbles, convicts and restores. God’s pursuit of his children is relentless and his sanctifying grace is always at work.
When I first started reading the book or even before I ordered it my heart was becoming hardened toward my spouse and I was starving myself of what was most important, the gospel. I was frustrated, felt alone and my marriage was suffering due to lack of communication. A dear friend of mine recommended reading this book and at that point I was broken and asking God for help. This book was a good starting place. I have taken a few months to read this book and I think that was for the best. If I read it in a week I would not have savored as much as I have. As my journey with God is a process, so is my marriage. It’s interesting to look back and see that I was ready to give up at one point and now I am praising God for my trials because I know they are for my benefit. God gives us relationships, a spouse and maybe even kids to bring our sin to light so that we can be sanctified and made holy. We see how imperfect and selfish we are.
“Hide your face from my sins, and blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Cast me not away from your presence , and take not your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit.” Psalm 51:9-12
I found a great article on The Gospel Coalition website called How to Move from Forgiveness to Reconciliation as well as one on Grumbling and asked my husband to read it. I used to see forgiveness and reconciliation as one in the same, but after reading this article I saw how they can be separate and need to be dealt with differently. Luke and I had forgiven some sins committed against one another, but we were far from reconciling with one another because the trust was broken and additional efforts needed to happen to rebuild trust. Reconciliation between us needed God, trust, effort, time, prayer and communication or we would not be strong enough to weather the storm(s).
Matthew 7:24-25 says “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.”
The Spirit who dwells with us continues to sanctify us and God has heard the desires of our hearts. Love can mend all wounds. I am so thankful to have friends who pray for us and give us truth. Truth and conviction hurts, but is so necessary for our growth and maturity as Christians.
“And so, from the day we heard, we have not ceased to pray for you, asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so as to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy, giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light.” Colossians 1:9-12